I’ve sat down to write this blog post at least a dozen times. There is too much to say and my thoughts are so jumbled! First of all, there is this crazy thing that happens when you have a baby, time goes into super sonic fast zone. How has it already been six months {okay, almost seven} since Eden was born? It has simultaneously been the longest and shortest six months of our lives.
On April 9th, at 8:01 in the morning, our 8lb 1oz precious God-given gift, Eden Grace entered the world. I was abundantly grateful that I was able to give birth unmedicated with Sam and our doula, Kelley, at my side. Those first weeks home are now a blur. I remember I cried non-stop. We relied so heavily on people to care for us. I cried more. We changed a lot of diapers. I nursed. I prayed. I nursed some more. And then I nursed more. I was in a constant state of feeling like a failure for having no idea what I was doing, but in the same breath feeling like I had never done or been something so amazing as being Eden’s mama. I was, and still am, so proud that the Lord lets me be her mom.
Oh, speaking of Jesus. He shows up in the mightiest of ways when we are the weakest. And boy does a baby amplify your weaknesses. Time and time again, Jesus has shown up to remind me that He is Eden’s keeper. In the loneliness of the night when there are big beautiful eyes staring deep into my soul, and my whole body is cringing. In my releasing of control into the hands of others who care for Eden while I am at work. In the first illness that left us weary. In the accidental head bonk or dog scratch. The Lord is her protector.
While he has lent her to us here on earth, ultimately her days are His. She belongs in his mighty hands. You would think that would bring great relief. But we live in a fallen world, and my cynical heart struggles to believe. So every millisecond of every day that I am consumed with worry is just so wasteful. I’m teaching myself to breathe and lay it at the Lord’s feet. That is not to say that we should not be wise. We should be going before the Lord daily and asking for the perseverance and wisdom to answer this calling as parents. As Eden’s parents, we should go to bat for her because the Lord has entrusted her in our care. But as Sam often gently reminds me, “don’t try to be what only God can be for Eden.” Ugh. So much truth. Being a mama is hard. The hardest work I’ve ever done.
But oh the JOY. I’ve realized that I struggle with experiencing joy in general. I am fearful in joy-filled seasons that it will be taken from me, so I choose to be numb to it (yes counselor friends, I realize this is unhealthy!). Our first year of marriage I was so filled with fear that Sam was going to die in a car accident that that “honeymoon year” was filled with tears and heartache and irrational fear. My pregnancy, the time of my life that I felt the most lovely, was filled with fear and lack of joy because I was terrified I would loose my baby. I carry the burdens of others so heavily at times that that too can out weigh my joy because I am so wrapped in the unfairness of my joy and their pain. But then this little human entered our world and there are times that I look at her and am so consumed with joy it’s hard for me to explain. My whole body swells with jubilation. It’s a deep, deep, hard-to-wrap-my-head-around, love. The Lord has been so kind to me. He’s teaching me that I should indeed, experience joy with my whole being. And Eden, you guys, she radiates joy.
I know very little about motherhood, other than you need Jesus (and Sam, but he’s taken). But to the women - this is one thing I am sure of - whether you have your own biological children, the children in your church family, the children you babysit, the children you are longing for, the children you are grieving for, the children who you wait to hold in Heaven, the children you gently lead back to their parents at a park, the children you don’t shame when they are throwing a tantrum in the store, the children you think or pray for around the world - you are a mama. You are important. You are doing the hard work of furthering God’s Kingdom by loving on the Lord’s little persons. For you, mamas, I am so thankful.
Love,
Katelyn
P.S. In other news, Ethel became a dog the day we brought Eden home from the hospital. Poor thing. Although she is neglected now, she's still a good pup. She get the biggest smiles from Eden. We see a great friendship (love/hate of course) in their future.
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| Best friends. |
